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Mystical Solitude
Aug 12, 2024
“Loneliness increases the risk of early death.”
“Loneliness increases your risk of heart disease.”
“The loneliness epidemic is a worse risk than obesity, inactivity, high blood pressure, or poor diet.”
I first encountered these startling claims in an introductory psychology course a couple of years ago. My initial reaction was one of skepticism: "Show me the proof," I thought, trying not to worry about whether my love for spending time alone was problematic.
That same year, I was tasked with creating a project for a theatre performance class - a video with an analogy that would express some deep, personal meaning. I chose to explore the concept of solitude through the analogy of race cars on a track. As a single racer on a crowded track, I am hindered by the other racers as I am forced to slow down and navigate carefully to avoid any collisions. When, on the other hand, I am racing alone on my own track, I am free to go full speed, not having to slow down or think about avoiding any obstacles in my way. It’s just me in my own zone, shooting for the moon. My intention was to express the benefits of solitude, which was a profound realization in my life at the time.
My professor, however, didn’t see it that way. My analogy was met with confusion, a low grade, and a “I don’t understand the analogy”. Naturally, I cursed the subjective grading system, knowing there was not much I could do about it (except maybe write a blog post three years later).
This experience, coupled with reflections on times where I'd feel lonely despite being surrounded by friends, and the insights I gained from learning about loneliness in psychology class, prompted me to explore deeper the difference between loneliness and solitude —a distinction that is often misunderstood. This blog post will dive into the difference between loneliness and solitude, outline the benefits of solitude, and explore how one can transform loneliness into solitude.
Loneliness vs. Solitude
Take Clarissa, for example. Clarissa is out on a Saturday night with about eight friends, all of whom she’s known for over a decade. Yet, as she looks around, she can’t shake the feeling of disconnection, wondering why she feels so out of place and lonely despite being surrounded by lifelong friends.
Then there’s Fatimah. Fatimah delights in spending hours alone in her room—reading, creating, working, or just letting her mind wander. One day, she realizes she hasn't gone out with her friends in over two weeks. Her parents start hinting that she needs to "get a life" and worry she might be lonely. But Fatimah doesn’t feel lonely at all; she finds genuine joy in her solitude.
What makes Clarissa lonely and Fatimah not?
The fundamental difference between loneliness and solitude, in my opinion, lies in the way one perceives and mentally frames the experience of being alone. Loneliness, as Clarissa feels, is a negative emotional experience that stems from a perceived lack of meaningful social connection, even when surrounded by others. This sense of disconnection can have serious repercussions on mental and physical health, increasing the risks of conditions like depression, anxiety, and cardiovascular disease. Loneliness triggers stress responses in the body, elevating cortisol levels, and can lead to a vicious cycle of social withdrawal and emotional distress (1).
In contrast, solitude, as Fatimah experiences it, is the state of being alone by choice, often embraced willingly and positively. Solitude offers opportunities for reflection, creativity, and personal growth, fostering inner peace and enhanced self-awareness. Unlike loneliness, solitude is not about the absence of social connections but rather the presence of a deeper connection with oneself. Research suggests that when solitude is chosen and embraced, it can contribute to mental well-being, emotional resilience, and even spiritual development, making it a powerful tool for personal freedom and fulfillment (2, 3).
A quote by May Sarton captures the distinction between solitude and loneliness eloquently — “Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self”. Loneliness is a state where we feel a lack; an empty void where connection, fulfillment, or purpose should be. We look for something external to fill this emptiness. Solitude, on the other hand, is a state of abundance. When we embrace solitude, we have the space to cultivate the richness of our inner world. We have the space to explore and develop our thoughts, emotions, and creativity without external distractions.
In solitude, we are free from the demands and judgements of others, allowing us to engage in deep introspection and self-reflection. This unhurried, uninterrupted time with ourselves enables us to confront our true feelings, understand our desires, and clarify our values. Rather than seeking validation or fulfillment from the outside, we find it within, enriching our sense of self and our understanding of the world around us. This shift in perspective transforms solitude from a mere absence of others into a powerful and fulfilling state of being.
The Benefits of Solitude
Philosophers, artists, and great innovators have long emphasized the merits of solitude, seeing it as the secret ingredient for deep thought, creativity, and self-discovery. Nietzsche said, "the great man is the lightning out of his cloud; he shines out of himself." He believed solitude was crucial for true greatness, giving people the space to rise above society's noise and tap into their core. Then there's Thoreau, who practically turned solitude into an art form during his time at Walden Pond, discovering profound truths about life. Artists like Van Gogh and Georgia O'Keeffe thrived in their solitude, creating masterpieces that wouldn’t have been possible if they were constantly bombarded by the world around them. And let’s not forget innovators like Steve Jobs and Einstein, who often needed to retreat into their own minds to cook up the ideas that changed the world. For these brilliant minds, solitude wasn’t about being lonely—it was the fertile soil where the seeds of inspiration and genius could truly grow.
Even Gen-Zers on TikTok today are jokingly expressing that when they spend prolonged time around others, they need to follow this up with at least a week of solitude to “restore their aura”. And as with all good jokes, some truth lies in there.
I’ve personally experienced this on a deep level, time and time again. When I was younger, all I wanted to do was go out with friends and be around people constantly. Although it was fun, I found that without spending some time alone, I would start to feel a bit lost, lacking a strong sense of self.
Can You Transform Your Loneliness into Solitude?
My earlier statement that the distinction between loneliness and solitude lies in how one perceives the state of being alone, is not to say that it’s your fault you feel lonely. I am merely hoping to offer you a sense of empowerment — the idea that you have the ability to transform loneliness into solitude simply by reframing your experience. Research by Segel-Karpas et al. (2023) supports this, demonstrating that individuals who engage in positive solitude can mitigate the negative emotional impacts of loneliness, particularly depressive symptoms. Segel-Karpas emphasizes that the way we think about and approach our time alone significantly impacts whether that experience will be harmful or beneficial (4).
You know your mind best. Think back to when you’ve let go of a bad habit or adopted a new one—each time, you formed new neural connections that solidified those changes in your life. The good news is that our brains are high in neuroplasticity; you have the ability to rewire your thoughts, behaviours, and mental states. Use this ability to transform loneliness into positive solitude. Here are some actionable tips to guide you:
Shift Your Focus from the Absence of Social Connection to the Potential Benefits of Time Spent Alone
Start by educating yourself on the benefits of solitude. Explore literature on the subject, read blog posts like this one, dive into the philosophies of thinkers who valued solitude, or watch videos that resonate with this theme. Understanding the value of solitude can help you see your alone time as an opportunity rather than a burden.Create a Supportive Environment
Next, ensure that your surroundings encourage the cultivation of your inner strengths. This might mean setting up a quiet, comfortable space in your home where you can retreat for reflection and creativity. Surround yourself with things that inspire you—whether that’s books, art supplies, or a journal for writing down your thoughts.Engage in Meaningful Activities
Use your time alone to do things that nourish your soul and stimulate your mind. Whether it’s reading, writing, creating art, or simply taking a walk in nature, choose activities that bring you joy and allow you to explore your inner world. Do something you have always wanted to do, and if you don’t have anything in mind, try experimenting with everything you have ever been even slightly interested in. These activities can transform your alone time into a period of rich, personal fulfillment and self-discovery.Develop the Necessary Psychological Skills
Practicing mindfulness allows you to stay present and engaged during your alone time. Notice your thoughts and let them flow. This will enable you to become more self-aware, and this self-awareness allows you to control your mind wandering. When you catch yourself thinking, "I’m so lonely," try to shift that thought to something more positive, like, "I’m using this time to grow and connect with myself.” Overtime, as you repeat these words to yourself, it will become subconscious — automatic. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) helps individuals recognize and change negative thought patterns.Set Small, Achievable Goals for Your Time Alone
This one has personally helped me tremendously. I track daily habit goals on my Notion and keep a growing list of topics I want to explore during my alone time. Start by setting small, manageable goals for your time alone—maybe it’s dedicating 10 minutes a day to journaling or spending an hour each week on a creative project. These goals give structure to your solitude, helping you focus on the positive aspects of being alone and gradually shifting your mindset. Over time, you’ll start to look forward to these activities as your brain gets rewarded with dopamine from achieving them, turning your solitude into something you actively enjoy.
The beautiful thing is that enriching your sense of self allows you to connect more deeply with those around you. Your interest in others becomes genuine, not just based on how they make you feel or whether they fill a void. You’ll have a clearer sense of the values you seek in people and what you truly want in your life, which empowers you to set boundaries and avoid tolerating things that don’t align with your well-being.
Conclusion
To my theatre performance professor; solitude, like the race car on an empty track, allows us to move forward at our own pace, unhindered by the distractions or obstacles of others. It’s not about isolation but about finding the freedom to explore our thoughts, deepen our self-understanding, and grow without external pressures. When we embrace solitude, we unlock a powerful state where we can truly focus, create, and discover who we are, free from the noise of the outside world. This enriched sense of self allows us to better form genuine connections with people in our lives, as we become more interested in them for who they are, rather than whether they fill the empty void within us.
I’ll leave you with a few quotes on solitude to ponder:
“In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself” — Laurence Sterne.
“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom, for it is only when he is alone that he is really free”— Arthur Schopenhauer
“When from our better selves we have too long been parted by the hurrying world, and droop. Sick of its business, of its pleasures tired, how gracious, how benign is solitude." — William Wordsworth.
"Your inner voice is the voice of divinity. To hear it, we need to be in solitude, even in crowded places." — A. R. Rahman
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8 billion people - 8 billion businesses?
Aug 6, 2024
What would the world look like if everybody had their own business? With the rise of generative AI, one-person businesses are becoming increasingly feasible. Sam Altman of OpenAI envisions a future where one-person businesses can scale to become unicorns - companies valued at over a billion dollars. He believes that with the right tools, the myth of needing a large team to build a successful company can be shattered.
The democratization of generative AI technology is diminishing barriers to entry for starting a business. Entrepreneurs can now leverage Gen AI to handle tasks that once required large teams and extensive resources. From content creation and customer service to financial planning and marketing, gen AI can manage it all. This increases a single entrepreneur's productivity while allowing them to save resources.
Since the rise of ChatGPT, I've had the opportunity to create my own generative AI assistants to leverage at work and to streamline business processes. As someone studying economics and business with virtually no technological background, I found it surprisingly accessible to develop these assistants. This is a direct example of how generative AI can empower individuals from diverse fields to enhance their productivity and innovation capabilities. Hell, I even used generative AI to assist me in building my Gen AI assistant.
Now, imagine a world where everyone had their own business. Picture the productivity and innovation this would bring. Small businesses would spring up everywhere, each bringing unique ideas and solutions to the table. Local economies would thrive as more people gained financial independence and created job opportunities. With the right policies and incentives in place, the collective innovation of billions of individuals could solve global challenges, from environmental issues to poverty and hunger.
This vision is certainly not without its challenges. It could be seen as an oversimplification to assume that everyone could easily start and sustain a business. We must ensure that this technological empowerment reaches all corners of the world. We are only as productive as our least productive member, and without addressing the digital divide in developing countries, this vision remains incomplete. The infrastructure and support systems must be in place globally to enable everyone to benefit from these advancements.
While there are challenges to overcome, the possibilities for innovation, economic growth, and poverty alleviation are too significant to ignore. As someone who's experienced firsthand the transformative power of generative AI, this all immensely excites me. I've recently been contemplating ways to simplify the process of starting businesses for everyone, including myself, and I believe that generative AI plays a crucial role in solving this problem.
You Are Your Niche
Aug 6, 2024
I've been thinking quite a bit about this compelling idea that Dan Koe constantly brings up in his videos: the idea that you are your niche. Whether your goal is to start a business or to build up your personal brand, instead of looking outwards into the world and trying to fit into one predefined niche, you should start by looking inwards to discover your unique combination of interests and passions.
How can you do this? Ask yourself: What deeply interests you? What occupies your thoughts most of the time? What are you curious about? Throughout your life, what has been a constant interest that hasn’t changed?
It could be philosophy, neuroscience, and spirituality.
Perhaps it’s economics, vintage fashion, and self-actualization.
Or maybe writing, political science, and historical fiction novels.
Pick 3-4 things that deeply resonate with you. Despite the constant pressure to specialize, we must recognize that as humans, we are naturally curious generalists. Specialization is not inherent to our nature. We are all highly unique individuals. If you double down on the combination of your unique strengths, passions, and experiences, you can create a niche that is authentically aligned with who you are. Authenticity attracts. You’ll find that people resonate with you simply because you are being authentic to yourself.
This idea ties into the deeper notion I strongly believe in; that we all have our unique purpose, value proposition, mission, reason that we are put here on earth. By embracing our generalist nature, we not only honour our true selves but also bring something truly original and valuable to the world.
What is Economics?
May 20, 2024
When I first switched into Economics during my undergrad, I found it difficult to really understand what Economics was about, what career path it would lead to, and how the theoretical concepts I was learning applied to real life. Initially, I thought Economics was just the study of money. I soon realized it is a broad field with many applications. When you’re so immersed in complex mathematical models and theoretical frameworks, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture; of how these theories apply to real-world scenarios.
I came across the book Brilliant Economics by Phil Thornton, which I wish I had read earlier in my undergrad, as it provides a well-rounded introduction (or primer) to the essential theories and concepts explored in Economics. If you are contemplating becoming an Economics major, or are just curious to learn what Economics entails, this post is for you.
What is Economics?
We live in a world with scarce resources and unlimited demand. Economics examines how scarce resources are allocated amidst this unlimited demand. The 'how' has to do with choices. Choices made by individuals, businesses, governments, and nations, to allocate limited resources.
Since these choices are made by a broad group of stakeholders, economics is divided into two main branches: microeconomics, which focuses on choices made by individual players in an economy (like consumers and firms), and macroeconomics, which looks at the economy as a whole (including national and global interactions).
A fundamental concept in economics is opportunity cost—the idea that choosing one option means forgoing another. This principle underpins much of economic decision-making.
Schools of Thought - Monetarism vs. Keynesianism
There are two main schools of thought in economics: Monetarism and Keynesianism. Monetarism is associated with the classical school of economics, which views economies as self-regulating, argues for free-markets, and argues against government intervention. Keynesianism, on the other hand, advocates for government intervention during downturns to stimulate and support the economy.
Economic Growth
A primary focus of Economics is understanding the causes of economic growth, as faster economic growth increases citizens’ standards of living and quality of life. Growth is measured by comparing a country's GDP (Gross-Domestic Product) values across time. The most common method of deriving a country's GDP is through the expenditure method, which adds up the money spent by private consumers, consumption by the government, investment, and the difference of exports minus imports.
There are 4 main ingredients of growth: physical capital, human capital, natural resources, and improvements in technology (technological innovation). Some economists also emphasize the importance of politics and the rule of law for growth, and others emphasize the effects of climate.
There is some criticism about using GDP to measure growth, as it fails to capture several positive contributions to society, while capturing perceivably negative ones (ie. the manufacture of weapons and cigarettes. Also, it doesn't account for happiness, wellbeing, or the cost to future generations of economic activity today. That being said, there are other measures that can be used in combination with GDP to get a more well-rounded view of an economy at a point in time, but there is pressure to come up with better measures of living standards than GDP. Alternatives such as the Human Development Index (HDI) can provide a more comprehensive view.
Business Cycles
Economies move between faster and slower periods of growth, known as business cycles. You have probably lived through a business cycle; they come with four phases:
Expansion: consumer spending and borrowing rises, output from factories and businesses increases, prices, shares, and wages increase. This leads to the second phase:
Peak: characterized by an overheating of the economy, where authorities tend to raise interest rates, making it more expensive to borrow. Debt becomes unaffordable, and financial markets start to fall.
Recession: business activity, wage growth, house prices, and share values all fall.
Trough: The economy hits rock bottom. Once rock bottom is hit, recovery can begin, and the cycle restarts.
These cycles are caused by the convergence of various factors, including business investment decisions, greed and fear, changes in inventories, technological and commercial innovation, the expansion and contraction of access to credit from commercial banking, and external shocks such as the outbreak of war.
Recent examples, like the 2008 financial crisis, illustrate these phases well. Busts are painful in the short term, but the long term trend is for economies to grow even as they go through their cycles. Each boom takes the economy to a larger size than the one before.
Work and Wages
The labor market is a crucial aspect of Economics. People are either employed, unemployed, inactive, in education, or retired. Long term unemployment is detrimental to growth. Many governments strive for full employment and to stimulate job creation, as it is one of the main drivers of growth.
Under the classical view, unemployment is the result of people demanding wages above the level that supply and demand says should be set for a particular job. The Keynesian view attributes unemployment to a lack of demand that the governments should intervene to rectify. Contemporary trends such as the gig economy and remote work also impact employment dynamics.
Inflation
Inflation is the persistent rise in the general level of prices across the economy over time. To ensure economic stability, inflation can’t be too high or too low - it needs to be just right. High inflation is indicative of an overheating economy, while inflation that is too low is indicative of a potential recession.
Inflation occurs when the demand for goods rises faster than supply can keep up with, and as a result, businesses raise prices. Several factors contribute to this:
When an economy is growing or expanding, more jobs are created, meaning people have more spending money and are more likely to spend.
When governments spend more on the provision of schools, hospitals, and better quality roads, this increases demands for goods and services, and puts more people to work.
When consumers think inflation will continue to rise in the future, they are incentivized to spend money now before things become more expensive.
Technological innovation
Nobody likes inflation, as it erodes buying power. Despite this, many economists argue that we need it; that it is better to have moderate inflation rather than 0 inflation because 1) if there is 0 inflation, people would not be encouraged to spend their money now in fear of prices rising later on, and savers would earn no money from their investments. 2) Having zero inflation would remove the central bank's tool of cutting interest rates in times of downturn to stimulate the economy. 3) It would be a shock to workers to not see increases in their wages, even though they can buy the same amount of goods.
Some people benefit from inflation, while some suffer. Among the winners are borrowers, mortgages, homeowners, savers, and investors. Losers are consumers, general cash savers,, pensioners/people on fixed incomes, businesses, variable-rate mortgage holders.
The Role of Government
In a world with scarce resources and unlimited demand, governments face the challenge of delivering strong and stable growth, keeping inflation under control, ensuring the economy creates jobs for its citizens, and that households' living standards rise over time. They do this through 2 main tools: fiscal policy (taxation and public spending), and monetary policy (central banks controlling the money supply).
The government is a major player in most countries' economies, managing the economy through fiscal policy - taxation and public spending - to influence economic activity.
The main forms of taxation are on personal income, personal wealth, contributions towards social security, corporate income, and indirect taxes such as VAT. Government spending is focused on services that individuals alone cannot organize, but that benefit everybody equally (ie. emergency services, police, street lighting).
Annual budgets show whether taxes and spending are in balance, and governments being in deficit typically have to borrow money. This borrowing tends to increase during recessions, and decrease during booms.
There is a debate over whether government should borrow to boost economic growth.
Interest Rates, Monetary Policy, and Central Banks
Interest rates are the price of money; the price for charged when money is being borrowed, and paid when the money is being saved. These rates influence how keen people are to borrow or save.
Interest rates are the main tool for central banks to fight inflation. Raising interest rates brings down inflation but slows down growth, while cutting interest rates should encourage growth but may fuel inflation.
When interest rates fall to zero, central banks have to inject money into the economy, known as quantitative easing.
Money and Finance
Money, which arose to facilitate more efficient exchange than bartering, has three main properties: it is 1) a means of exchange, 2) a store of value, and 3) a unit of account.
Economists debate the relationship between money supply and inflation. The monetarist school of economics believes that changes in the money supply change thee economy's price level but nothing else, while the Keynesian school says that price level is not strictly determined by money supply - that instead money supply influences price level indirectly through its effects on interest rates, incomes, outputs, employment, and investment.
Housing and Property
Adequate housing supply is essential for economic growth. Housing prices are influenced by a number of factors other than just supply and demand, including the state of the economy, interest rates, access to credit, confidence, speculation, taxes, social factors, and the rental market.
Stable housing markets contribute to greater achievement, lower crime rates, labour market mobility, and stable economic growth. Homelessness is correlated with higher social security, poor health and crime, and weak job prospects.
Trade and Currencies
Trade involves imports and exports, with the theory of comparative advantage suggesting that every nation should specialize in the production of goods it can produce most efficiently, and import everything else from other countries that make them more efficiently. Although globalization has undeniable benefits to the global economy, concerns have been raised about its negative impacts on the world’s poorest. The Great Depression taught politicians that putting trade barriers up during a downturn makes economic conditions worse than before.
The Future of Economics
Economics has faced criticism for assuming that everyone is a rational agent working for their self-interest, and for relying on GDP as a measure of growth. Assuming rational behavior doesn’t explain things like donating, or paying tips, while GDP does not capture elements of the economy that make us worse off.
Behavioural economics, which combines psychology and economics, addresses one of these issues by trying to explain why people make irrational decisions. Additionally, concerns over climate change and externalities are encouraging new economic theories and approaches.
Conclusion
This was a very brief, high-level view of the main topics that economics delves into. Each of these topics go very deep, with many theoretical frameworks and mathematical models that try to explain the different choices that various stakeholders face to allocate scarce resources. Economics is a dynamic and multifaceted field that finds a place in every aspect of our lives. Understanding its core concepts can provide valuable insights into how economies function and evolve, both on a microeconomic and macroeconomic scale.
In terms of career paths - since the field is so broad, it offers various opportunities for potential career paths. If you want to go corporate private sector, they will appreciate your broad view of how firms and markets work. If you want to work for the government/public sector, they will appreciate your knowledge of the impact of different policies, and what incentivizes behaviour. If you want to focus on statistics and data analysis, economics provides a strong foundation as well. I personally believe that the well-rounded perspective you gain from studying economics, combined with critical thinking, quantitative, and analytical skills, positions me exceptionally well for a management/tech consulting role.
Can't Believe I Get to Live Through the AI Revolution
April 20, 2024
Man. When I first watched Black Mirror, a series renowned for its dystopian takes on technology and the future, I thought, there’s no way any of this stuff is actually going to happen in real life. It seemed too sci-fi fantasy-land for me.
Now, it seems not only possible but imminent.
We are on the verge of witnessing the convergence of several transformative technologies: AI, blockchain, quantum computing, nanotechnology, nuclear fusion - and probably some other advanced technologies we haven’t even come up with yet. We are at an inflection point. Businesses globally are adopting generative AI, pushing to integrate it into their core operations, encouraging their employees to use it to 'augment' their work, and even going so far as replacing employees with it. A recent leak from a Shopify employee revealed that the company is silently replacing laid-off staff with AI. In a capitalist society, how can we blame businesses for cutting costs as much as they can? That’s simply what they’re incentivized to do.
Imagine a world, 10-15 years down the line (or maybe even sooner), where AI is as common as smartphones are today. A world where we move past just daily interactions with AI - to forming deep connections with it. A world where humans become best friends, or even have romantic relationships, with AIs. In this world, AI understands us better than we understand ourselves. We think social media is addictive today - how much more addictive will it be when it’s supercharged by AI systems that have the potential to glean what goes on in our subconscious?
I believe this AI revolution is going to come with a changing world order. It’s only a matter of time. Ray Dalio, in his book ‘The Changing World Order’, describes a pattern seen time and time again throughout history. He outlines a cycle experienced by all major empires: the rise, the top, and the inevitable decline. At the final stages of an empire’s decline, there is some form of revolution/war that catalyzes a shift to a new world order. And then a new cycle begins. You can see this play out historically through the Dutch, the British, and French Empires. Ray argues that the US is nearing its decline, and that China is on its way to the top. This cycle - he calls The Big Cycle - is driven by several interconnected factors that contribute to the overall state of the country/empire. To name a few - the state of debt, capital markets, education, innovation, wage gaps, internal order/disorder and external order/disorder. He shows that you can get a pretty good picture of where a country is in The Big Cycle by identifying where it is with regards to about 18 factors such as the ones I just named.
Reading this book, amidst all the conflict going on, and amidst this inflection point we’re at with AI - I’m convinced we’re headed towards a new world order. How can capitalism, in its form today, still exist if AI has the potential to do everything, from small tasks to running businesses, far more efficiently than humans can? The alternatives to capitalism are not very enticing to me. Heck, capitalism - in its form today, is not very enticing to me either. I guess I can say it’s the least un-enticing alternative out of the existent systems I know of today. We NEED a new economic system.
I was a toddler during the third industrial revolution. So despite all the fear-mongering that I’m sure existed at the beginning of the industrial revolution too (news flash: we turned out just fine!), I’m excited to see how this plays out, and I’m excited to take part in the innovation. I get excited thinking about the opportunities that this technology can bring, and I think it’s come at the perfect time, where chaos in the world is at its peak, brimming with problems that have proven beyond human capacity to solve.
I’ve always thought about how different the world would be if we all actually expressed our inner thoughts and ideas. I’m a firm believer that everybody has their own unique value to bring to the world that ties into to their unique purpose. What stops people today from expressing their inner thoughts and ideas, which I think hinders this unique value they have the potential to bring to the world, is fear. Fear of judgement, fear of losing their jobs, fear of saying something they shouldn’t, fear of seeming different than everybody else, self-doubt - all manifestations of fear. You know who doesn’t experience fear? AI.
So I got to thinking, if AI has the potential to understand us better than we understand ourselves through all of our interactions with it — not just what we intentionally share with LLMs like ChatGPT, but through the data it gathers from our search histories, how long we linger on certain topics, our camera rolls, our messages, our emails (and if you think all of these things are private right now - I hate to break it to you but they are not, just ask Jeff Bezos or Larry Page or Apple or Alexa or any other large corporation incorporating AI into their systems) — wouldn’t this mean that AI would understand our unique value? What if we lived in a world where AI actually helped us realize our unique value and take rational steps to communicate it to the world? What if AI’s objectivity could make us better individuals and improve our interactions with others?
I just brain-dumped a whole lot of my thoughts at you, but it’s a lot to think about - isn’t it? The point is, I’m incredibly excited to be of age this time to witness and take part in this AI revolution. I will update this post in 10 years inshallah.
Do we create our potential, or pursue it?
Feb 12, 2024
I watched an episode of The Diary of a CEO where Steven Bartlett interviews Adam Brant, an organizational psychologist, and asks for his opinion on whether we create our own potential or pursue it. This is a simple but profound question that I thought might be interesting to delve deeper into.
Do we create our potential?
If yes, this would mean that through our daily actions, habits, and our conscious contemplation of our future and goals - we create our own potential. This would imply that our potential is malleable by us, and is therefore limitless. The more effort you put in, the greater your potential will grow. It implies that with consistent effort and motivation, we are able to develop as many abilities as we want.
Anders Ericsson, a psychologist who specializes in researching the psychological nature of expertise and human performance, conducted a study on deliberate practice. He found that the level of performance individuals achieve in many fields is largely a result of focused, deliberate practice over a significant period, rather than innate talent alone. This implies that with enough effort and effective strategies, people can reach high levels of performance in various domains.
Do we pursue our potential?
If yes, this would mean that we cannot create our potential. That our potential is fixed, and it is our job to pursue it. This places an emphases on our natural abilities and qualities we are born with. It implies that our potential is established from the day we are born. Our fate is written and nothing we can do, say, or wish for, will result in the creation of potential. We have a path called potential that we simply uncover, through daily life, and aim to find and pursue this potential.
Intuitively, we can see how this view may be detrimental in its implication that there is a limit to our potential. It emphasizes the role of genetic, biological, and inherent psychological traits in determining the range and limit of what we can achieve.
Nature vs. nurture
The question of whether we pursue or create our potential directly ties into the nature vs. nurture question, where merely pursuing/uncovering our potential represents the nature argument, and creating our potential through our environment and daily habits represents the nurture side. It raises the question: Are we merely uncovering a predetermined path, or are we creators of our own potential?
Proponents of the nurture viewpoint argue that an individual's development, traits, and potential are primarily shaped by environmental factors, experiences, and learning from the moment of birth onward. Proponents of the nature view argue that while environmental factors, education, and personal effort are crucial, they operate within the boundaries set by innate capabilities.
A personal reflection
Upon hearing this question, I was immediately taken back to a conversation I had years after graduating high school. A friend confided in me that, during our high school years, he saw me as 'wasted potential.' According to him, I had made some questionable choices and was not following the right path (looking back now, I agree). Thinking about it now, his remark reflected his belief that we pursue pre-determined potential. Implicit in his words was the idea that 'wasted potential' represents lost opportunities— potential that, once squandered, cannot be reclaimed or recreated.
Undoubtedly, without some changes I made after high school, I wouldn't be where I am today. The COVID-19 pandemic became a turning point for me, through which I experienced both the pursuit and consequent creation of potential. Distant from distractions, I watched myself discover who I was, and what really interested me. This led me to set specific, meaningful goals. But simply identifying these goals wouldn't have been enough to achieve them or to uncover other, unforeseen objectives.
Concurrently, I watched myself build a consistent routine where I put in daily effort towards not just my goals, but also towards continuous learning and improvement. The combination of discovering my passions and following a disciplined routine daily, resulted in new opportunities emerging in my path, and led me down paths I hadn't anticipated. These opportunities would not have risen if I didn't initially pursue my potential. In this sense, pursuing my potential led me to create new potential. Take this as direct evidence that pursuing your potential can lead to the creation of even more opportunities and unanticipated potential.
I've come to understand that passion, drive, and motivation are significant drivers of achieving desired outcomes, and sometimes even bringing a touch of luck into the mix. This journey has shown me that potential isn't just lying there waiting to be discovered; it's something we actively build and expand through our actions and choices.
The Answer
The truth probably lies somewhere in between. I believe we engage in both the creation and pursuit of our potential. I also believe that once we start pursuing our potential, a dynamic comparable to a flywheel effect takes place as our initial efforts and discoveries about ourselves generate momentum, leading to the creation of new potentials that would remain untapped had we decided not to pursue our potential.
While we may be genetically blessed in a certain skill or ability, how far we go and how much we achieve is significantly influenced by the effort we put in. I think the best way to live out your potential and learn about yourself - and ultimately, self-actualize - is to both uncover and create your potential.
Conclusion
It is not strictly one or the other. Rather, it's a dynamic process that includes self-creation, self-discovery, and the pursuit of opportunities that align with our skills, interests, and values.
Find out what it is you’re inherently good at.
What you’re instinctively passionate about.
Build on these skills and abilities through repeated practice and action.
Through consistent learning and development.
Approach everything with a growth mindset. There is nothing that you cannot learn. You are the one placing these fake limits to your potential. Your potential knows no limits.
A Thirst for Knowledge
Jan 29, 2024
There is endless knowledge out there. With immense breadth and depth, knowledge runs as wide as it runs deep. Among infinite fields, you can dive deep into a particular field, just to find various subfields waiting for you to dive into as well. As you dive into the subfields, you’ll find sub-subfields, and the diving goes on, and on, and on.
There is a vast, infinite body of knowledge that is overwhelming, humbling, stimulating, but at the same time calming. No matter how much knowledge you accumulate, you will never learn everything there is to know. No matter how old you are, the experiences you’ve had, the books you’ve read, or the studies you’ve undertaken, the truth is: what you know is just a speck of the entire spectrum. This is a constant truth; it will always be the case. There is always more to learn.
This ocean of knowledge is overwhelming, in that I know I don’t have enough time to learn everything I want to learn, even if I stuff my brain with new information 24 hours a day.
It’s stimulating, in that whenever I dive deep into a certain field, say psychology - my neurons start firing questions related to another field, say economics, and when I then dive into economics, questions related to engineering arise. Each new field is a puzzle, interlocking with countless others, in both subtle and blatant ways. There are links between seemingly unrelated fields that I believe have yet to be discovered.
It’s humbling, in that the more I learn, the more I realize how much I actually don't know.
It’s calming, in that no matter how dissatisfied I might become with any role, occupation, profession, state of life, routine - I know that there is this wide array of other fields and topics I can delve into, all easily accessible to me. There are always new paths to explore and it is always possible to change my situation.
I’m grateful for my insatiable thirst for knowledge. It makes life even more beautiful than it already is.
"Life is Only Interesting if Life is Wide"
On the one hand, we're told...
“Life is only interesting if life is wide.” — a quote by Lucien Carr.
On the other hand; the more aggressive hand that wants to shove you into a confined box, we're told over and over...
"Don’t be a jack of all trades."
"Pick ONE major."
"Specialize."
"The only way to be truly successful is to become an expert in your field.”
Growing up, I had many interests - ballet, horse riding, reading, drawing, singing, writing, Taekwondo, playing dress up, and much more. Fast forward to high school, I found myself in a tenth grade Careers class, tasked with answering a set of questions on a survey that would determine my best-suited career path. At that point, I hadn’t the slightest clue what I wanted to pursue after high school. Thinking about what I wanted to study in university felt daunting. It was a decision I tried to put off for as long as possible. I had high hopes that this career survey would provide some much-needed direction.
A job I had never, ever heard of, came up as my result. I stared blankly at the word ‘Critic’ on my screen. A job that was supposedly the best fit for me.
A critic, as I discovered through Wikipedia, is someone who communicates assessments and opinions about various forms of creative works including art, literature, music, cinema, theatre, fashion, architecture, and food. Critics may also take social or government policy as their subject.
Like every teenager, the first thing I did was compare my results with my peers. To my dismay, I found I was the only one with the Critic career path, while my peers' results leaned more towards conventional career paths such as mechanical engineer, computer scientist, psychologist, vet, and so on (all of which had higher salary projections). I wondered why their results were more focused on specific fields, while mine encompassed a broad range of creative fields and social topics - unsuccessful in providing me with the specific direction I needed.
This made me question if something was inherently wrong with my aspirations (mind you, I didn’t consider the possibility of error or survey bias at the time, and took that result at face value).
When the time came to pick a university program, I still had no clear direction. The decision didn’t simply “come to me” like others said it would. Despite the advice I received, I tried to pick a broad program so that I could explore multiple fields. I hated the idea of specializing before I even knew what I liked. I settled for the Arts and Business program at Waterloo, through which you choose a major in the arts after first year, and still get to explore business. Entering university, my path remained uncertain.
I eventually picked psychology as my major by the end of first year, but after gaining some practical work experience, switched to Economics - a field with wide applications across society, business, and technology. A field that I felt would satisfy my range of passions.
Throughout my journey, I’ve maintained a skepticism towards hyper-specialization. To me, the idea that we must confine ourselves to a single field is incompatible with the multidimensionality of human interests and passions. I believe we weren’t created to have just ONE passion, ONE interest, or ONE purpose in this life. Life has so many experiences to offer, and chasing a single purpose seems awfully limiting.
Every single little thing that you feel drawn to, you should pursue in some way. There is so much to learn; so much to explore. Why confine your (limitless) mind to just one thing?
Freedom of Your Mind
I thought about freedom on my walk back from the bus stop.
Freedom, in my (privileged and grateful) opinion, is dancing in the middle of the street without worrying about whoever’s watching. Singing along to the music blasting in your headphones without worrying about what anyone is thinking.
Wearing the outfits you want without caring about being judged.
Saying what comes to mind without thinking about how people will perceive you.
Walking on a sidewalk, free of your mind’s plaguing thoughts. Instead, being aware of the cool breeze as it brushes past your skin, noticing the white glow of the moonlight’s reflection revealing texture in the branches, breathing in the crisp night air deep into your lungs, hearing the distant rush of cars speeding past you. Becoming aware of your surroundings, with all your senses.
This is when I feel most comfortable, and most connected with my true self. The best way I can articulate this feeling I get, walking on the sidewalk, is akin to being in love - not with anyone or anything in particular, but just immersed in the pure essence of love itself.
There is so much to notice if you really look. Being free of your mind allows you to really see.
By being liberated from the constraints of your thoughts, you open yourself up to a more profound awareness of the world around you.
Similarities Between Your Brain and The Universe
Your Mind is its Own Universe
I’ve always been fascinated by the fact that every human brain is unique. Among the 8.1 billion people alive on Earth, no two people share the same brain anatomy - every brain is wired differently (9). Despite all our common traits, we each have distinct thoughts, perceptions, and experiences of life - we have different realities. Essentially, every mind is its own universe. I often ponder this metaphor as I observe and interact with people through daily life.
Not too long ago, I stumbled upon an interesting analogy in the book “The Big Picture” by Sean Carroll, where he draws a parallel between our brains and the universe, comparing the physical structures, thermodynamics, and processes in both entities. This brought me right back to the metaphor I love. Could it be that every mind is actually its own universe?
The Parallel Between Your Brain and the Universe
I browsed through existing literature to explore these parallels, looking to understand the extent of these similarities and whether they could somehow offer an explanation for the intense, moving feeling I get when gazing into the starry night sky. Furthermore, I wanted to uncover potential lessons this intriguing parallel could teach us about our lives.
I first came across a study by Franco Vazza, an astrophysicist at the University of Bologna, and Alberto Feletti, a neurosurgeon at the University of Verona, who combined their disciplines to conduct a quantitative analysis of the brain and the universe. They found striking similarities in the structure and processes of both entities, despite differences in scale. I further explored papers about brain circuit connectivity and activity, cognition, and the cosmic web, along with blog posts and interactive art installations exploring the connection between the cosmos and the mind — all referenced below.
I discovered profound parallels between the brain and the universe, that offer lessons directly applicable to our lives. These parallels not only put things into perspective, but inspire self-actualization, and teach us about transcending our limits.
How is Your Brain Similar to the Universe?
The images above exhibit two networks - a network of neurons within the human brain (left), and a cosmic network of galaxies comprising the universe (right). These are the most complex systems in nature, both beautiful and vast, yet still not fully understood. There are 4 main similarities that we can observe between the universe and the brain; physical structure, interconnectedness, limitless expansion, and energy dynamics.
Similarity #1: Physical Structure and Organization
There are about 100 billion galaxies in the universe, and 100 billion neurons in a human brain (10, 6). Both systems share the principle of self-organization. The arrangement of galaxies throughout the cosmos is comparable to the arrangement of neural networks in human brains. The composition of these systems is also noteworthy, with solid matter making up only 30% of each entity, while around 75% comprises passive elements - water in the brain and “dark energy” in the universe (10). When we sleep at night, our brains remain active as indicated by rhythmic brain waves, the same way the universe at rest remains active as gravitational waves ebb and flow in the quietest regions of space (7,5).
The concept of voids; negative spaces that define the positive, play a pivotal role in both cosmic and neural realms, illustrating how the processes of growth, ageing, and decline affect both the universe and our brains. Voids, the emptiest regions in the universe, exert forces that push matter away over time. When these voids intersect, they give rise to the cosmic web and galaxies. Likewise, the web of neurons in our brains deteriorate with aging and disease, leading to empty spaces or voids as the brain atrophies (5). As the universe ages, cosmic voids become larger, reflecting the emptiness that develops within the brain as neurons deteriorate and as humans age.
Similarity #2: Interconnectedness
Looking at the images above, it’s palpable how deeply interconnected both cosmic and neural networks are. This interconnectedness is observed in the way galaxies are clustered together in cosmic patterns, and in the neuronal networks through which our thoughts and ideas are transferred. Nodes in the brain and nodes in the cosmic web are each connected through intricate branching patterns. What makes these branching patterns intriguing is that they both scale similarly - in an arrangement that optimally connects all elements while minimizing total connection length (5). This scaling in both systems resemble a minimal spanning tree that points to efficiency in the establishment of connections in both systems (5). In the brain, this efficiency plays a role in effective information processing and communication between neurons.
It’s this interconnectedness which allows for the linking between distinct areas of our brain associated with process-specific activities (1), such as how our amygdala, responsible for processing emotions, communicates with our frontal cortex, involved in decision-making and reasoning — enabling a seamless flow of information and contributing to the functioning of various brain regions. Particles become connected regardless of their distance from one another, as explained by quantum physics and the entanglement phenomenon. In the cosmos, regardless of physical distance, actions taken on one particle can instantly affect another.
Similarity #3: Limitless Expansion
The universe is constantly expanding overtime. This is supported by the Big Bang Theory, and principles of general relativity. As a result, galaxies move further away from each other, with the rate of expansion increasing overtime. The universe possesses the potential to form an almost infinite number of structures due to the dynamic interplay of gravitational forces and constant expansion (5).
Much like the limitless expansion observed in the universe, our brains and minds possess extraordinary potential for growth and transformation. Within neural networks, our brain cells hold the potential to form a nearly limitless number of connections (1). Interestingly, both the universe and the brain have achieved only a fraction of their potential (5,6).
Similarity #4: Energy Dynamics
The universe and the brain are similar in the energy dynamics they exhibit related to growing, connecting, and transforming their structures. Both systems adhere to the concept of energy conservation. The first law of thermodynamics states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed. Galaxies emit energy through star formation, supernovae, and the interaction of black holes, while neural processes emit energy through synaptic transmission and ion channel operations. Energy transformation in galaxies refers to matter transmuting into energy through nuclear fusion, producing light and electromagnetic emissions. Within the brain, metabolic processes convert nutrients into energy.
The second law of thermodynamics states that the entropy of any isolated system can only increase (3). This is true in both the universe and our brains, where galaxies evolve towards state of higher disorder overtime, and the brain experiences an increase in entropy with aging, marking the natural progression of both systems toward greater complexity.
Lessons to Learn from This Parallel
There are vital lessons we can take away from these parallels and apply directly to our lives to enrich our experiences, transcend our limits, and self-actualize.
Lesson #1: Change is the Only Constant in Life
Change is inevitable, in our lives, in our brains, and in the universe. It’s something we must accept, and learn to thrive on. The universe is always moving, changing, rearranging its structure — similar to the neural networks in our brains. One underlying principle here is that energy cannot be created or destroyed, but transformed. Sometimes when you lose something in life, it may not seem like it but this loss might have paved the way for an unexpected gain in your life. Think about this the next time you get dumped in a relationship, or stress about the people closest to you changing.
Lesson #2: You Set the Limits of Your Potential
Your potential is limitless. Whatever limit exists to your potential is one that you, whether consciously or subconciously, impose on yourself. You’re standing in your own way. Try to become aware of these sef-imposed limits you place on your potential, reflect on where they come from, and whether they are hindering you from achieving your full potential. The concept of limitless expansion, observed in both the universe and the brain, urges us to embrace our innate capacity for adaptation and perpetual growth.
Welcome new experiences, especially those outside of your comfort zone, as opportunities for expansion. Just as the universe continually evolves, approach life with curiosity, openness, and a belief in your capacity for continuous growth and improvement. Explore diverse interests, and maintain an open mind to the infinite possibilities that lie ahead.
Just as the universe and brain have only realized a fraction of their potential, consider that there may be untapped potential within yourself. There is infinite knowledge and information to learn about yourself and about the world around you. Learning makes your brain more powerful; your neural connections stronger, and more deeply intertwined. Engage in the discovery of yourself and of the world, and explore the depths of your abilities.
Lesson #3: There’s Beauty in the Chaos
Life can get chaotic. Entropy, the degree of disorder and uncertainty, increases over time. This applies to the universe and our brains as they evolve and increase in complexity. It’s in this very chaos that a unique and awe-inspiring beauty emerges, one that is easy to miss if we’re deep in one of life’s challenges. Embracing the beauty within disorder requires us to stay resilient as we face life’s hurdles. Becoming aware that disorder is an inherent part of the cosmic and personal journey allows us to approach difficulties with a new perspective. Instead of viewing challenges as disruptive forces, recognize them as integral components of a grand, beautiful narrative - the unique story of your individual life. Each challenge represents a brushstroke that contributes to the larger canvas of your existence.
Lesson #4: Everything is Connected
I’ve saved the most important lesson for last. If you can take away one thing from this blog post, let it be this. The captivating interconnectedness in the brain and universe merely scratches the surface of the inherent interconnected nature of existence. Interconnectedness extends beyond these systems to encompass our ecosystem, human nature, and biological systems — permeating every aspect of our world. Everything is connected.
Acknowledging our interdependent reality encourages us to adopt a holistic approach to problem-solving. Solutions to complex issues often lie beyond the confines of a single discipline or perspective. Some of the world’s biggest problems have been solved through analogous thinking; fueled by considering the interconnected nature of existence. For example, a doctor named Patrick Byrne noticed a similarity between the pattern of cell growth in the thyroid and the spread of wildfires. This analogy led to a breakthrough in understanding the growth patterns of thyroid cancer cells, illustrating how insights from one domain (ecology) could contribute to advancements in another (medicine). There are numerous examples of cases like these, ranging from the analogy of war games and business strategy, to the parallels of psychology and aviation safety (11).
Diverse perspectives and knowledge from different fields is evidently valuable in tackling challenges. This offers a paradigm shift that we can incorporate into our personal lives. By embracing a breadth of experiences and insights, and interacting with diverse people, we open ourselves to a richer understanding of our world, and enhance our problem-solving abilities.
In a world marked by complexity and interdependence, the value of interdisciplinary thinking guides us towards innovative solutions and a more profound appreciation for the interconnected nature of existence.
Conclusion
Throughout my research, I found that there are many parallels like this one, seen across structures in nature and our bodies - such as the striking similarity between the appearance and functionality of trees and lungs. While further research is needed to fully understand the implications of the parallels between the brain and the universe, the insights gained can certainly push you to transcend your limits and live a more fulfilled life.
All I could think about going through this research is the beauty of God’s creation. The uniqueness of every individual brain translates to other aspects of ourselves. We all have unique looks, accents, and voices - yet there’s a profound interconnectedness binding us to the universe and to one another.
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Inspiration: A Guide to Your Purpose
Do you ever spontaneously get hit with a crazy good idea that you feel you have to act on right away? A surge of motivation that stimulates your mind as creativity floods in through the form of more ideas? That feeling you're on the brink of something incredible? This is inspiration. A truly transcendental feeling; one that urges you to do something, learn something, work towards something.
The catch? Inspiration is only a fleeting visitor. When feeling inspired, you start thinking about these new ideas, researching ways to get them done, maybe even go as far as writing a detailed to-do list on action items to get done. Before you know it, the to-do list gets lost at the bottom of your messy drawer, or deep in your notes app, abandoned and forgotten.
There is something that stops you from taking instant action. Then, inertia strikes, and that feeling of inspiration doesn't come back. Think about it - inspiration probably thinks to herself “this person isn’t making good use of me - why would I stay here?”
Inspiration is Trying to Tell You Your Purpose
I firmly believe that inspiration is the universe's way of nudging you towards your purpose. It's a connection to a wellspring of energy and creativity, related to your unique purpose. A glimpse into new possibilities. If you ignore inspiration's call - if you fail to take action - you're essentially turning your back on opportunities for a more fulfilled life that is authentic to unique self.
As humans, we often find solace in our comfort zones. Taking action when inspired requires practice. It's about recognizing those moments of inspiration and then mustering the will to do the work that needs to get done. Starting that blog, writing that chapter, starting that business. When you start making progress, that initial spark of inspiration fans into a blazing fire of motivation. Inspiration grows, instead of leaving, and the results follow.
I’m going to tell you one thing. A simple sentence that is of substantial importance and works wonders if implemented. Open your eyes, brain, and heart wide. Absorb what I'm about to tell you with every atom in your body.
When you feel inspired, TAKE ACTION right away.
3 Steps to Make Good Use of Your Inspiration
Recognize the spark: When you feel that surge of energy and motivation, don't let it slip away. Jot it down, capture it in the moment. Emotions have a brief lifespan—don't let this one fade into the background.
Do one small thing right away: Naturally, we tend to dread or procrastinate on things that we over-complicate in our heads. For example, let's say you get hit with inspiration for an idea on a chapter you're writing in your book. You think that you have to think everything through before starting, and you tell yourself you'll do it tomorrow so you can spend the whole morning on it. Inspiration is watching you, and she's not happy. Don't get surprised when she leaves you, and you don't end up working on that chapter the next morning. Here, when you first get the idea, you're going to run to your desk, grab your favourite pencil (or laptop), and JOT DOWN THAT FIRST SENTENCE. Yes, just the first sentence. It seems insignficant, but works wonders for your inspiration. Now, inspiration sees that you're making good use of her, and she decides to stay, and GROW.
Repeat this process, and reflect on the results: Take a moment to appreciate what inspiration truly is. As you see the results and experience the exacerbated inspiration, combined with your action, you will never let the initial spark of inspiration go again. The combined effect of inspiration and goal-oriented action is exponential.
Still don't believe me?
Psychologists Todd M. Thrash and Andrew J. Ellot published a study that finds that mastery of work, absorption, creativity, perceived competence, self-esteem, and optimism were all consequences of inspiration, suggesting that inspiration facilitates these important psychological resources that people experience at relatively high levels when they feel like they have found their purpose.
Key takeaway: When you feel inspired to do something, take action right away. Let that inspiration be the fuel that propels you towards a more purposeful and fulfilling life. Don't let it gather dust in the archives of your mind. Embrace it, act on it, and watch as it transforms your reality. The power is in your hands, waiting to be unleashed.
Sources:
Books: Mel Robbins - "The 5 Second Rule", "Stop Saying You're Fine"
Your Daily Actions are Influenced by What You Consume
Ever heard the saying, "You are what you eat"? I'm going to take that a step further and say: You are what you do. Your day-to-day actions are influenced by your thoughts, and your thoughts are shaped by the information and experiences you absorb and consume. This is a profound truth I've observed in my life - and the reason I'm very particular about what I consume and who I spend my time around.
Think about it - have you ever noticed how a day filled with positive interactions and uplifting content can leave you feeling invigorated and ready to take on the world? Conversely, spending time in a negative or draining environment tends to cast a shadow on your mood.
Your thoughts, like seeds, grow from the fertile soil of your experiences and the information you take in. They shape the lens through which you view the world and influence the choices you make each day. That's why it's so crucial to be mindful of what you feed your mind.
Imagine starting your day with a dose of inspiration, whether it's a thought-provoking article, a soul-nourishing podcast, or a few pages from a book you love. Suddenly, your actions begin to align with this newfound energy. You find yourself approaching tasks with vigor and enthusiasm, and approaching interactions with a heart full of kindness.
On the flip side, drowning in a sea of negativity and mindless consumption (..those 3 hours you spent scrolling through Tiktok the other night?) can have the opposite effect. It's like trying to swim against a relentless current, struggling to stay afloat amidst a barrage of pessimism and discord.
Key Takeaway: Be intentional about what you let into your heart and mind. Surround yourself with content that uplifts, empowers, and inspires. Seek out experiences that challenge you to grow and evolve.
My Experience with Door-to-Door Sales
I know what you're thinking. "Gosh, I hate door-to-door salespeople." But hear me out, because after hearing my story, you will still hate door to door salespeople, but you won't be as rude to them. You might even decide you want to try your hand in door-to-door sales. This is a chapter of my life that's shaped me in unexpected ways, and has been a cornerstone of my professional journey.
Picture this: a nervous, wide-eyed Nour, standing at the threshold of a random person's door, practicing my 'pitch' in my head - trying to ignore the butterfly party commencing in my stomach. My inner voice is telling me to knock extra gently, hoping the homeowner doesn't hear my knock. The first couple of doors were excruciating. The tenth door was a lot easier than the first, and by the end of my first week, I'd notched up a hat trick - three successful closes.
Handling rejection isn't something you learn overnight. In those early days, once I heard "no" at the door - I said "okay, no worries, thank you!" and left. But this was a commission-only role - so I soon realized if I didn't start handling objections, I would become broke. I started to practice and improve my objection handling - focusing more on the prospect's reason behind the no, trying to dig in to find where the real resistance lies. Dealing with constant rejection helped me grow thicker skin, and the more I experienced it, the less it affected me. With time, I found that empathizing with and really understanding the person I was trying to sell is key, and is what worked best with my style. At the end of the day, we're all humans and humans are social beings who crave connection. We crave to feel seen, understood, and heard.
At a certain point, I found myself looking forward to talk to random people at their doors everyday. The occasional 'get off my porch' became slightly amusing (albeit a little hurtful), but the best part was the genuine conversation I'd have. I met pilots, car dealership owners, the mayor of Milton - all sorts of people from various fields, with different perspectives on life. In a matter of minutes, I'd go from stranger to trusted advisor, all thanks to the magic of conversation.
Negotiation became about uncovering the unique concerns and motivations of each prospect, and finding a solution that resonated with them personally, with the intention of helping them and their families feel more secure in their homes. To understand these prospects, I learned to actively listen, and read body language.
Beyond the sales pitches and quotas, this journey was a catalyst for my personal growth. It was like a crash course in self-assurance and stepping out of my comfort zone. I was a pretty shy person at first, who would shudder at the thought of initiating random conversation with a stranger. This trait started to change with the more strangers I talked to, and this change translated to my personal life. I started feeling more confident in expressing myself and using my voice. Real growth happens when you take risks - when you step outside of your comfort zone.
In a serendipitous twist, I not only successfully sold the Telus home security system but also forged a connection with an account executive at Tugboat Logic. His encouragement led me to apply for a position at Tugboat Logic, and I ended up landing the role!
My stint in door-to-door sales left an indelible mark on my life. It taught me to be open to opportunities I think I will hate (I mean who wants to knock on strangers' doors?) It taught me grit, perseverance, and open communication. It taught me the importance of non-verbal communication, positive thinking, and how confidence / belief in yourself and your abilities is a partial determinant of your outcomes in life (in this context, sales). Confidence and belief that you will make that sale does something to your energy that your listener can sense.
So, here's to embracing the unknown, chasing dreams, and knocking on doors - both literally and metaphorically.
The Value of Reading Fiction
I used to love reading fiction when I was a kid. Sophie Kinsella, John Green, Lauren Oliver. Once I turned 18, I scoffed at the idea of spending precious hours lost in the pages of fiction. I mean, come on, aren't there better ways to spend our time? At least, that's what I used to think. To me, fiction seemed like a relic of my childhood, buried under a mountain of textbooks and adulting responsibilities. Who had time for all those flowery descriptions and elaborate worlds, anyway?
I was wrong.
Let me tell you, diving headfirst into fiction is like discovering a hidden door to another universe. It's an escape, a breath of fresh air from the hustle and bustle of reality. Those pages of "descriptive words" transform into vivid landscapes and intriguing characters that live and breathe in our minds.
You see, fiction isn't just about reading; it's about experiencing a whole other life. It's about slipping into the shoes of protagonists, feeling their triumphs, their heartaches, and their growth. It's about being there, right alongside them, navigating the twists and turns of their journey.
This immersive experience isn't just contained within the pages of a book. It spills over into our day-to-day lives. Suddenly, I found myself more eloquent, more attuned to the nuances of conversation. Fiction, it seems, has a sneaky way of improving our communication skills, and improving our empathy and understanding of other perspectives. It's like a secret language we share with authors and characters, one that hones our ability to convey ideas and emotions.
But perhaps the most beautiful thing about fiction is its ability to grant us a respite from the demands of reality. It's a mental spa day, a chance to unplug and unwind. When life gets a bit too overwhelming, there's solace in knowing you can retreat into the pages of a well-loved book.
So, here's to breaking free from the notion that fiction is a mere pastime for kids. It's a portal to worlds untold, a classroom for life, and a sanctuary for the soul. Don't be surprised if you find yourself talking a little more eloquently and seeing the world with a touch more wonder. After all, fiction has a funny way of leaving its mark on us, in the best possible way. Happy reading!
How You Need to Wake Up.
Your alarm rings. That familiar, annoying sound that jolts you awake. You fumble to silence it, your mind still half in the realm of dreams. It's a battle to get out of bed, but you manage, albeit begrudgingly. Then, for a moment, you contemplate going back to sleep. We've all been there—the struggle to start the day on the right foot.
But here's the thing: when that alarm rings, it's signaling the start of a new opportunity. It's your cue to wake up, not just physically, but mentally and spiritually too.
You take it for granted, but every morning presents a fresh canvas, ready to be painted with the colours of your choices and actions. Each sunrise brings a chance to reinvent, to learn, to grow, and to move closer to your dreams. As harsh as it sounds, you are lucky to have not died in your sleep last night.
3 Steps to Start Your Day Right
Set Intentions: Begin your day with purpose. Take a moment to reflect on what you want to achieve, both in the short term and the long term. Setting intentions helps you align your actions with your goals, giving your day a clear sense of direction. I like to write a to-do list of what I plan to do the night before, so I can get the day started as early as possible. This to-do list usually aligns with my bigger goals.
Cultivate Gratitude: Take a moment to acknowledge the blessings in your life. Gratitude opens your heart and mind, allowing you to approach the day with positivity and appreciation. It shifts your focus from what's lacking to what's abundant. For me, this is my morning prayer (Fajr).
Nourish Your Body and Soul: Start your day with activities that energize and invigorate you. Whether it's a nutritious breakfast, meditation, or a brisk walk, these rituals set a positive tone for the rest of the day. Breakfast is my favourite meal of the day. A breath of fresh air in the morning does wonders for your mood for the rest of the day.
When that alarm rings, it's not just a call to get out of bed—it's an invitation to embrace a new day filled with boundless potential. By waking up physically, mentally, and spiritually, you unlock a world of opportunities and growth. So, the next time your alarm sounds, remember: it's not just a wake-up call; it's a wake-up opportunity. Seize it with open arms, and watch how it transforms your life.